Dating a musician support group
I suppose I was always suspicious, but I was in denial.
"I don't know how this could have happened," he stammered. But I kept quiet and thought, I've held up as long as I could. Both of us grew up in the small-town South, and Chris was in the military.We periodically see stories about married men in public life who are gay or have been implicated in homosexual behavior — such as Senator Larry Craig (R–Idaho), who was arrested last summer for allegedly soliciting a male police officer in an airport bathroom, and former New Jersey governor James Mc Greevey, who proclaimed that he was a "gay American" when he announced his resignation from office.While the media focuses on the men, I watch their wives standing next to them and wonder about the suffering, lies, emotional confusion and rage that they may be living through. There are so many obvious questions for a wife like me: Didn't I realize he was gay? And if I had suspicions, why didn't I confront him earlier or divorce him?"You have chlamydia," my obstetrician told me as I lay on the examining table, six months pregnant with my fourth child."You've got to talk to your husband." I was in total disbelief. "We're both monogamous." But of course I knew that wasn't really true, and the doctor's words forced me to finally acknowledge what I'd suspected for a long time: My husband was most likely gay.